My Ideal Day

No more 9-to-5. No more working for a dime. I’m living my life (!?) & not someone else’s!

My Ideal Working Day

• It’s a sunny day & I wake up at 6 5 am.
  After washing-up, my ideal day starts with:
• Do some work-out & exercises for 20′
• Read some book for another 20′
• Cook or help my love prepare our breakfast
• ….

Details here:

In total, I will spend:
– 5.5 – 6 hrs of sleeping
 vs 7 – 9 hrs as of now
– 7 hrs of productive working
 vs 8 for 2 – 3 hrs of productive work as of now
– 0.5 – 2.5 hrs of excercising
 vs 0.5 – 1 hrs as of now
– 0.5 – 1 hr of reading/learning new stuff
– 3 – 4 hrs of dining
– 1 – 1.5 hrs of planning
– ~ 1 hr of personal hygiene
– ~ 1hr of complete chilling out
& have ard 1.5 hrs dead time (commuting, etc.)

A few years back, I fantasized my ideal girl in which I said I don’t wish to find nor expect any girls to be that ideal. That saying’s not applicable here though. I do want and will do whatever it takes to make my ideal day happen!

It was never tougher!

Things changed so dramatically. It was still great in the beginning of the month & now it’s as tough as ever!!

Everything’s against me…

stressed out…

depressed…

I close my eye hoping tmr will be better… just a little bit…

Either give everything up or …

People I trusted..

I will remember this…

“Financial Freedom”?

I’m pretty surprised that “financial freedom” in many people’s points of view is the state of being financial free from their … mom!? In other words, “financial free” in their terms refers to when they get a job. (!!?)

Gosh, what a naive thought!!!

Well, once you get a job, it’s true that you don’t depend on your mom like what you’ve done in the last 22 years plus anymore but… yes, BIG BUT, you then depend on the much more scary, frightening than your mom that is your job – your boss – your company or whatever you wanna name it.

Well, to be honest, I was damn happy receiving my first little pay check – my bosses asked me to commence work 3 days before my contract started to help them with an urgent project, they paid me $50/day.

When you first start your job, you may feel very good upon receiving your pay check. You would feel deservedly like I did because that is what you try hard to get – yes, in compared to showing your poor face & asking your mom for money.

But then…

It’s good that you don’t depend on your mom. But it’s equally bad or even worst if you then depend on your boss or your job. Why?

(I want you to discover this by yourself – in fact, it’s better that way but – yes but again, ok let me just tell you… cos I’ve seen many people leave their lives without realising this.)

– 1st, you trade your 2 most important things for that (guess what they are). Some even trade their family, friends, etc. just to please their bosses in order to get a higher position, thereby higher pay check.

– 2nd and most importantly, you enter the so-called “rat race” which is quite hard to escape especially when you’re highly educated. (!!)

What’s next?

You would always look forward to weekends – not to enjoy the days with your loves and friends but to escape.

You would be scared of Sunday night & Monday morning blues become a syndrome of a new incurable disease.

You would want to travel a lot – a lot more – good? no, not for the seek of traveling and exploring but escaping – escape the nightmare at daytime.

….

One day you would realise it’s hard to get in (get a job) but it’s even harder to get out (leave that job). Hopefully, by then it’s not too late – it is never too late huh? Good luck!

ps: I was same as you – under those peer, social, family pressure, getting a job after graduate is a MUST.
Our mom & family want us to get a job so that we wouldn’t depend on them – for good reasons. But they don’t know that what they’re doing is pushing us to a race that’s even harder to get out than to get in. Well, it’s not totally their faults. They try hard. They do their best for us. Just that stupid people never know that they are stupid… (sorry if it hurts anyone…)
I did enter the race. But I am lucky enough to know that I should stop. Hope you do too.

Patience!?

Moyes was once described as the “Chosen One” who surprisingly overcame many high profile managers to succeed Sir Alex. Despite Sir Alex’s request to stand by their new manager on his final match, 10 months later, their “loyal” fans asks Moyes to be sacked after his desirable run as a manager.

Man United: Patience?

United’s playing pretty bad – almost as bad as an average team. But that shows us how impatient people are! They want success now. They want success overnight although they know it’s never easy replacing a legend.

That also says How badly we miss Sir Alex. We seem never appreciate him & anything he’s done enough until he’s gone. There were some moments I dislike the way United played, his tactics, substitutions… but one thing we can’t deny it brings sustainable success to United throughout his 26 years. Amazing!

A few weeks later Moyes was sacked ending his 10-month in charge of United.

Patience is such a luxury in this world of “madness”!! #United #HTH

Escape

I’m going to Bali on a annually company trip. Another trip. Another famous beach. I’m excited!

Yet these occasions always remind me of one of my favorite quotes from Jim Rohn:

“I find it fascinating that most people plan their vacations with better care than they plan their lives. Perhaps that is because escape is easier than change.” – Jim Rohn

He’s absolutely right. It’s always easier to escape than change! I see it happening all around my life…

Lead but Lead Who?

Most people can just follow. Only a few can lead.

But even if you are one of them, it may not be enough. The question would now become: Lead. Yes. But lead who?

Are you the kinda of person who can attract others to join you?
Do you have what it takes to become a leader?
Can you both talk the talk & walk the walk?
Have you done anything that’s worth mentioning?….

If one of your answer is “no” or vague, should it be better if you follow others?
Following is actually not bad a thing as long as your leader is great. You will learn a lot from him rather than leading a bunch of stupid people.

Ultimately, you have gotta become a leader – leading others. If you don’t lead, other will lead you. And unfortunately, as said, not all the leaders are great. In fact, many are selfish, arrogant,  if not even stupid. They will take advantage of you, treat you as an idiot which you don’t deserve at all.

Lead but lead who? Follow but follow who? They’re not easy questions…

I’m having more people in my team than my bosses have in the office. It’s kinda different but it is a good sign. Keep going!

Bro

It seems too early for me to credit someone for something. I’m still young. Real life’s seemingly just started.. But if there is anyone who I should be deeply grateful for so far, it must be my bro.

Though perhaps we’re so different now – in almost everything, I can’t hide the fact that he has made a very positive impact on me since young. He has guided and inspired me so much & despite all the differences I’ve still learned from him a lot.

To be honest, like many others (the averages), he seemed to underrate if not look down on me. He did doubt if I could find a job here. Even when things change, we still can’t work out together…
I did compare & had a shallow thought that if I were him, I would have done a lot better as a bro.
But then I realise we don’t need to be a best-fit to learn from each other. I know many are jealous of me when I posted on FB as they haven’t & may never find someone like that in their entire lives.

I’m lucky! Damn lucky!

…

He gave me some hopes & optimism at home though it turned out to be just diplomatic & might not even be true.

–

He bought then carried some heavy dumbbells from very far away for me to work out at home.

He bought me the widely considered “best business & personal development” book of all time.
He introduced me the guy whose philosophy changed my life over & over again.
My greatest achievement so far – the 100 consecutive push-ups was also introduced by him.

Those are just to name a few…

When I just came to SGP, he told me sth that I’m still & gonna remember for times to come:

I’ve been here for almost 4 years but I’m still studying English almost everyday. So I can’t find any reasons for you not to do the same.

One time, he took me to a restaurant in Bugis & said:

If you wanna date any Singaporean girls, you have to take them here (good restaurants) very often!

And yup, I did But of course not that often

One of a few times he complimented me:

Your character, appearance,… If you succeed too, it’d be almost perfect!

I was actually preparing to stand on my own 1 year ago. I took her there & told her the story… Things became even clearer during the last summer. And now it becomes reality. As I told my colleague, we hardly talk since then. But at least I know I’ve still got someone “there”…

I’m totally ready to stand on my own. Be strong & succeed!

We may go in totally different roads but our destinations seems exactly the same. We’ll reach there for sure. See you there, bro!