Walk the talk

More than 60 years ago, former president of South Vietnam, Nguyen Van Thieu left a memorable quote on the Communists:

Don’t listen to what the Communists say, but look at what they do” – Nguyen Van Thieu

Well, it turns out to be quite true (!?) But the more interesting thing is it not only sounds true for the Communists but also for everyone in this world.

Don’t trust and believe in those who can only talk

I mean sometimes it’s great and necessary to be sweet and diplomatic, especially in life and love (sweet talkers win many girls’ hearts). But talking alone would lead you no where as far as doing. Promises are worthless if you don’t do anything. Spending a day talking is not as effective and convincing as spending a few hours getting things done.

It’s always easier to talk than do!

If you can’t do, don’t talk

I feel shameful for those who talk and boast about what they don’t do. In case of teachers, it’s even more shameful. Some teaching Entrepreneurship are actually cowards and risk avoiders. Some teaching Leadership can’t even lead their students. I don’t know why they can teach what they don’t do and believe. Or is it just their jobs to teach whatever they’re supposed to do? I hope they still have some integrity to realise this. Teachers can’t even do so what to expect from the students?

Of course as humans we prefer feelings (talking, sharing, etc.) than things (doing, buying, etc.). But the fact that we were all born with both mouths and hands. Why not use both instead of either one? Don’t over-think & hesitate. Just walk the talk & everything will be in order.

4 Types of People

Robert Kiyosaki has his own 4 types of people. You probably have your own too. So do I. I’ve found out there are 4 types of people in the world:

– the stupid

– the rather stupid

– the very stupid

& the completely stupid people

Yes, you see it right. People are stupid (that’s why Jim Rohn asked us to walk away from the 97%). We were all born smart but then taught and trained to be stupid. Of course we are not all the same. And since stupidity is just a temporary state of mind, every single one of us can change and eventually live very different lives. We’ve seen many “stupid” people who remains poor while a lot become the middle class, a few become rich and one or two join the billionaire club.

So what are the differences?

Well, the very and rather stupid people are often strongly influenced by their family & environment. The completely stupid people are interestingly those who actually know they’re stupid while the stupid people are those “know-it-all” kinds of people who think & behave as they already know everything (In Vietnamese, we call them “da ngu ma con to ra nguy hiem” lol – I’ve seen a few and personally interviewed one – talk about that later :d ).

As a result, the completely stupid are eager to learn and keep improving themselves because they know they’re not perfect. The very and rather stupid work pretty hard to earn a living because they’re weak and don’t know what else they could do. The stupid people are often smart and happen to be in the right environments. However, because they don’t work as hard as the very and rather stupid and due to their special “know-it-all” characteristics, they live wasteful lives between doing & not doing anything.

For me, I’m lucky enough to be in the last cat. In fact, I’ve “advanced” from the stupid to become the completely stupid person 😀 Since I can advance “backward”, I’m really happy and blessed 🙂

#4yearsinsingapore

I have published some of memorable moments on my facebook. Here are the rest – I will jot down sth as a note for some of them:

i had lost someone i loved and loved me so much as well because of my insanity not long ago. So apparently i didnt wanna lose another one for the same reasons either! #‎4yearsinsingapore‬ – coming soon

attraction is not a choice #4yearsinsingapore

“what a great way to start the day!” She referred to my kisses.

Got an interview before graduate
Graduate before 20th birthday
A degree in ~ 2 years ‪#‎4yearsinsingapore‬

i loved the wrong person

won/overcame the challenges but made “fatal” mistakes along the ways #nonsense #arguments

there seem nothing less attractive than a man already in a relationship

tasted some forbidden fruits – Good ones!

Since when you become such that “nice” person (he meant that stupid, easy me)? – Well, almost a year ago when I fell…

Sometimes I don’t meet the right person, but I never lose faith in love

when u face the death, u have no choice but to turn back and fight crazily until your last breathe

another 2910

marriage may sound a little bit scary but at least I know she’s serious.

You may have fun out there. But you know what, I’m here watching & laughing at you.

When you think someone is on the wrong track, what should you do? Warn them? Change them? or try to stop them? no just show that you’re on the right track #right way to change a person

life is short, why you make it shorter #smoking

work hard? The key is to work smart & get things done.

It’s much much easier to flirt than to love. #love

“Good try but too late!” – one of the best insult I’ve ever received.

Sorry girls, security is something I can’t promise.

to be updated..

“What do you do after work?”

Last week,3 friends of mine coincidentally asked me the same question, “What do you do after work?”

Actually I didn’t  know how to answer them…

Because they would likely expect to hear sth differently from what I’m gonna say. Work. Yes, after work, I usually work 🙂

That work for me is just like a pleasure, which is different from my current work from 9 to 5. I mean when you find what you love to do, in technical term, it’s called work but actually it’s a play. It’s fun. It’s interesting. It’s amazing! Great!

I just <3 it!

My Loyalty #4yearsinsingapore

Many people based on my appearance and way of carrying things out think that I am the one who likes to “play”, venture and therefore not reliable nor trusted. Yea, they’re right to a certain extent. I’m the sort of those who likes to take risks. I love new challenges. Having said that, I think no one could ever question my ethics, dignity and loyalty.

You don’t know what makes a loyal man. Guess what? If they’re not loyal to you the first time, don’t give the the second chance because they will not loyal to you next time.” – Donald Trump

I’m staying at my current company for more than 1.5 years at a relatively low salary. I stayed even when they expected me to leave and still there after every single one of them have left.

I was lingering over a “dead” love for more than 1 month until i felt it couldn’t work and would go against my principles values.

I am someone many have trusted to tell their “secret” stories.

…

No one could ever question that!

Happy Traveling

I’ve had 5 amazing trips in the first – very productive – 5 months in terms of travelling although it’s somewhat marred by quite lots of things. Since I didn’t have much time to write a post for each, here’s the summary for all of them 🙂

First, I celebrated the new in year in Malacca where I had my best trip so far. Its cooling weather, nice & cheap food & particularly my dear made it awesome. I love those moments so much!!

1 month later, at the beginning of February, I went back to my home town to celebrate the Tet (Chinese/Lunar New Year) as usual. I even planned a quick trip to Laos but failed cos of many reasons. Then all of a sudden I had to witness my close friend’s dad passing away in the early morning of the Valentine day which marked a generally sad LNY trip.

At the nearly end of March, I had a company trip to Phuket – my first ever trip to Thailand. Phuket is such a wonderful city with many beautiful beaches and we had quite a lot of fun there. We went shopping, finishing, snorkeling & particularly Thai message which is cheap & enjoyable. However, things started to went wrong after this (it actually began before this). It took me 1 month to cool down and another month to settle everything else.

At the end of April till the oncoming May, I had a planned trip to Langkawi which is another popular place for beach lovers. But because I was not in the good mood before and during the trip & partially it was right after the Phuket trip, Langkawi didn’t leave much impression on me. It was especially boring at night. We didn’t even manage to ride the cable car nor visit the waterfalls because of bad weather… Not many other sightseeing either. A very poor & sad trip!

Then again around 23rd of May, I went on a trip to Bangkok for nearly 3 days 2 nights & then Chiangmai for another 3 days 2 nights (1 overlapping day between the 2). As similar to the previous trip to Thailand, this was great too. Will cover this in detailed in another post. Quite a lot of things to say 🙂

I learn them the hard way

What a crazy first 5 months of this year! I learned all of these lessons the hard way.

1. The law of averages

   I’ve mastered “the law of averages”. I skipped seminars after seminars most of which are free. I was waiting for something to happen. I threw away a great chance to meet  one of my idols… (!!!)
   Don’t do what the averages do, you’ll succeed. Keep your promises & reputation along the way as they are probably the most important thing you can nurture #pd

2. Change yourself but not anyone else

   The moment you think you should change someone. Pause & reflect: “You have no right to use your will power upon another person, even ‘for her own good'”. In fact, it’s much easier for you to find a better one rather than to change them. I learned a similar lesson almost 2 years ago, be willing but don’t try to help until you’re asked for. Everyone’s responsible for their own lives. Solve your own problem first. #pd
   

3. Loyalty lesson

   Donald Trump says it best: “You don’t know what makes a loyal man. But guess what!? If they’re not loyal to you the first time, don’t give them the second chance because they won’t be loyal to you the next time!” #love #relationship #business
   

4. Sincere lesson

   Be sincere in your feelings, actions, praise and everything else towards others. If later they realise you weren’t, you know how they would feel and what you would get in return. !?? #relationship

5. Be grateful

   Being happy with/appreciate what you’re having & what you’re given no matter it’s good or bad => Always look at the bright side of the situation. Idk how to describe it better cos it’s as simple as that. #power

6. Don’t ever lie to yourself

   If you have to, lie to anyone else but yourself. It’s simply because the moment you do, you’re killing yourself. It’s even better if you don’t lie at all. Don’t get the habit of lying even from the little small things. White lie? Yup, sometimes but it’s better to avoid it too. #pd