It sucks to be a NICE guy! Who is a nice guy then?
A nice guy is basically a guy who
- always try to please others
- usually says “Yes” to any requests
- always try to fit in
- is afraid of “risks” & unfamiliar things
- rather follow a crowd than to lead and stand out!
- accepts his “fate”; doesn’t have any drive to move forwards!
- doesn’t have his own opinions or don’t dare to voice out his. You usually hear him saying: “Anything! It’s up to you! You decide!”.
Nothing was wrong being a nice guy. Generally speaking, people especially girls do like (but don’t love) nice guys! The thing is it’s now past the time when you can win being a Mr. Nice guy or Mr. popular.
Isn’t it nice guys that always lose, especially when it matters – in love; in life and essentially in almost everything he does!!?
Together with constantly finding people who always support you, you’ve gotta find your haters as well. Actually you don’t needa find them. Haters will automatically appear when you voice out your own (unique) opinions and beliefs. That also means you dare to upset and annoy many people including your so-called “friends”.
Trump becomes the US President by provoking fear & hatred among American people. No one gives you more attention than your haters! Haters hate, criticize and backbite you whenever they can, and so, accidentally put you in the headline. And ATTENTION is everything on this digital age where people are constantly overloaded with information.
If no one hates you, then not enough people know you! – Uncle G.
(Or probably you’re a nice guy!)
A nice guy, on the other hand, pretty much avoid attention! He just wanna be a “normal” guy who’s happy with his own dull and boring life. No arguments; no drive; no ambition; nothing. He lives a life that’s not worth living again. What a waste of time being nice guy!
Because of his nature, a nice guy is often times a Gentleman! But not being a nice guy doesn’t necessarily mean you’re not a gentleman or you’re an asshole! A real man decide; a nice guy follow and an asshole doesn’t bother.
Having said that, a tough gentleman doesn’t always have to argue – create trivial conflicts and essentially “win” everything on his day-to-day activities. He listens; say what he needa say – no more no less. Most importantly, he knows exactly what he wants, and so, pay no attention to life’s trivia (especially the nonsense self-talks: what does she think of me? What if I’m wrong…).