I. Becoming a Member of the Club

Before my eyes, I saw proof that uccess breeds success and, indeed, the rich do get richer. Their web of friends and associates was the most potent club the people I caddied for had in their bags. Poverty, I realized, wasn’t only a lack of financial resources, it was isolation from the kind of people that could help you make more of yourself.

I came to believe that in some very specific ways life, like golf, is a game, and that the people who know the rules, and know them
well, play it best and succeed. And the rule in life that has unprecedented power is that the individual who knows the right people, for the right reasons, and utilizes the power of these relationships, can become a member of the “club,” whether he started out as a
caddie or not.
To achieve your goals in life, I realized, it matters less how smart you
are, how much innate talent you’re born with, or even, most eye-
opening to me, where you came from and how much you started
out with. Sure all these are important, but they mean little if you
don’t understand one thing: You can’t get there alone. In fact, you can’t get very far at all.

He was living proof that success
in golf, and in life, had nothing to do with class. It was about
access (yes, and talent, at least in his case).
Arnie was inspirational proof that your past need not be prologue to your future.

Profound lesson about the power of generosity! When you help others, they often help you.

Success in
any field, but especially in business, is about working with people,
not against them.

p.5

Becoming a Member of the Club Dont Keep Score

It’s better to give before you recieve. And never keep score. If your interactions are ruled by generosity, your rewardds will follow suit.

What’s Your Mission?

Build It Before You Need It

The most important thing is to get to know these people as friends, not potential customers. p,43

Too often, we get cuahgt up efficiently doing ineffective things, focusing solely on the work that will get us through the day. The idea isn’t to find oneself another environment tmr – be it a new job or a new economy – but to be constantly creating the environment and community you want for yourself, no matter what may occur. p.44

You can only truly gain someones’s trust and commitment little by little over time. p.45

::how to create the kind of community that can help further your carreer: p.45

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The Genius of Audacity

Every time I start to set limits to what I can and can’t do, or fear starts to creep into my thinking, I remeber that Big Wheel tri-cycle. I remind myself how people with low tolerance for rish, whose behavior is guided by fear, have a low propensity for success. p50

It never hurts to ask.

The worst anyone can say is no. If they choose not to give their time or their help, it’s their loss. p.50  – Good Philosophy

Few things you can do today to make good on that commitment and get more comfortable at being audacious in social situations:

• Find a role model.
• Learn to speak.
• Get involved.
• Get threapy.
• Just do it. => You’ll get comfortable with the idea of rejection. With that perspective, even failure becomes a step forward.

I came to believe that in some very specific ways life, like golf,
is a game, and that the people who know the rules, and know them
well, play it best and succeed. And the rule in life that has unprece-
dented power is that the individual who knows the right people,
for the right reasons, and utilizes the power of these relationships,
can become a member of the “club,” whether he started out as a
caddie or not.
This realization came with some empowering implications. To
achieve your goals in life, I realized, it matters less how smart you
are, how much innate talent you’re born with, or even, most eye-
opening to me, where you came from and how much you started
out with. Sure all these are important, but they mean little if you
don’t understand one thing: You can’t get there alone. In fact, you
can’t get very far at all.